Cheers to Four Years of Bliss
“But if you love someone, then you want your beloved to be happy. You might feel frightened for him initially, but that feeling soon gives way to pride at seeing him doing what he wants to do, and going where he always dreamed of going.”
– Paulo Coelho, Manuscript Found in Accra
It’s always amazing to think how fast time passes. Today is our 4th wedding anniversary! David returns home from Kazakhstan tonight, and I can’t wait to see him. It’s amazing how long 10 days away from my blue-eyed best friend can feel.
In four years we have….
- Bought and sold two houses
- Lived in two different states
- Traveled to 11 countries together (soon to be 14) and 2 each individually (South Africa and Kazakhstan, for David, Costa Rica and the Grand Bahama for me)
- Gone skydiving and parasailing together
- Biked the Outer Banks
- Taken multiple Spanish classes together
- Ran 2 marathons
- Learned to sail
- Became beekeepers (never thought that would be our first pet)
- Completed a half ironman
- Became godparents
- Became certified PADI open water divers
- Traveled with our families
- Started a LLC (David) and started a new career (Natalie)
- Been in 5 weddings
- Started a garden
- Hiked in Maine, Pennsylvania, Tennessee, North Carolina, West Virginia, California, Texas, and Nevada.
- Hosted many long-term residents from 3 weeks to 9 months continuously.
The above is absurd to think about. It’s not meant to be a bragging tally, but really a list of gratitude. God has blessed us so abundantly with many great experiences and happy memories together in such a short period of time. Our biggest blessing is each other…I always tell David that he irons out my creases. I couldn’t ask for a better person to go through life with. We have so loved doing things together and taking on new challenges …that ultimately just give us the excuse to spend more time together.
Here are some of the lessons that we have learned throughout the first four years of marriage:
- Celebrate the little things, celebrate the big things. Celebrate every single day. Don’t make a big fuss over birthdays, anniversaries, valentine’s, etc. Life together is a gift to be cherished. By taking the pressure off of Hallmark holidays, you open yourself up to greater joy year round.
- Don’t try to one-up each other. No one wins. You both lose.
- Support and selflessness go hand-in-hand.
- Work as a team. Avoid falling into the trap of dividing household duties into something she/he “always does”. Be observant and appreciative. When someone does something around the house, take notice and say thank you! It goes farther than you might think.
- Support, support, support in public. Never tear the other person down, especially in front of other people. Any concerns can be resolved in private. Speak lovingly.
- Let things slide. Remember you aren’t perfect, but you are perfect for each other. The little stuff really is the little stuff!
- Go on adventures.
- When you get angry, get quiet. Later, attempt to hold hands. Then discuss.
- Stay playful, stay silly.
Here’s to a grateful and smitten heart, and many more years of love and adventures. Cheers!